Saying “goodbye” hurts to the core, especially when it’s a loved one. You all of sudden think of all the things you should have said when they were alive.
You still can. A funeral speech gives you the opportunity the says things you never did.
A good eulogy honors the life of the person who has passed away. It highlights the positive attributes of their character and lifestyle. Eulogies offer moments of reflection for those in attendance, giving them temporary relief from grief.
They also express the need to let go while saying “I’ll always love you, and I’ll never forget you.”
Were you asked to speak at a funeral? You may find it challenging to arrange your words into a proper funeral speech. Relax. Here’s some great advice for planning the perfect speech.
1. Remember What a Funeral Speech Is
Funeral speeches are eulogies. They pay special tribute to someone who’s recently passed away. If you’ve never been asked, consider the request as an honor.
Your purpose as the eulogizer is to bring comfort by reminding grieving people of the important role the deceased played in their lives. While you’re reminding them, also pay your respects.
2.Start With Opening Remarks
While there’s no set outline for eulogies, they all start with opening remarks. This is where you introduce yourself to the funeral attendees.
Keep your intro brief unless you’re opening with a sweet anecdote about the deceased. Refrain from giving your entire bio, especially if the entire grieving attendees are family.
The short intro serves those in attendance who don’t know you and your relationship to the deceased.
3. Gratitude and Condolences
As a eulogizer, you’re standing in an honorable position. Family members of the deceased thought highly of you if they chose you to eulogize their loved one.
Thank them for it.
Show your appreciation for getting asked to honor the deceased and the family. After you give thanks, offer your condolences, even if you’re family. Condolences further express thanks for the privilege of paying tribute to the deceased.
4.Start With the Honors
If you didn’t get the opportunity to give the deceased their flowers before they died, here’s your chance. Start with the honors.
Discuss all the things that made the deceased special. Talk about awards you know of, their work ethics, and their parenting skills. If you know of any honors they earned in their community, bring those up as well.
This is the heart of your eulogy, so make it count.
If they were religious, speak on their faith and the role it played in their everyday life. It may draw out a lot of emotion in the room, but that’s fine. Sometimes speaking on faith has a way of offering free therapy.
Round the eulogy up a beautiful memory. Include as much imagery as possible.
5. Say Farewell
Sharing a heartfelt memory in your eulogy is like leaving the family with a hug. Afterward is the perfect time to offer words of comfort and prepare them to say farewell.
Don’t offer a singular goodbye. Involve the room, particularly the family. Consider having everyone stand as you read the deceased favorite quote, mantra, or bible verse.
Bid them farewell.
There’s no easy or textbook way set in stone on how to deliver a funeral speech. Saying goodbye isn’t something you plan. One thing is true, however. You can be authentic, gracious, and most of all, benevolent.
Do you need help planning a loved one’s funeral? Use our planning ahead guide then contact us for help laying someone you loved to rest.
Our family-owned funeral homes, Kuzo and Foulk, are here to help the Kennett Square, West Grove, and surrounding PA communities. Whether that’s with preplanning, a death in the family, cremation, a casket, the funeral service, or a funeral director, we’re here for you. Contact us for all of your funeral needs.