Condolence Gift Etiquette 101: What to Bring to Show You Care

When a loved one dies, the grieving period is tough. Thankfully, there are ways that you can help ease the pain for a fellow loved one — like a thoughtful funeral gift.

But what is an appropriate gift? Do you know proper condolence gift etiquette?

Keep reading to discover an array of appropriate funeral gifts.

1. Flowers

Flowers are the most traditional gifts for a funeral.

These can range in price and style, so there’s bound to be an option that fits your needs. Before you go out and purchase flowers on your own, check with the funeral home. Many funeral homes can recommend a florist, which makes the process easier for everyone involved.

For a unique twist on the traditional flower, consider gifting a tree or bush. The family of the deceased can plant the tree or bush in remembrance of their loved one. This makes for a sentimental reminder for years to come.

2. A Donation

Many people choose to send a donation in lieu of a funeral gift.

Often times, people will include preferred organizations for donations in their obituary. For instance, donations may go towards the American Cancer Society if the loved one passed after a battle with cancer. Or, if the deceased was an animal lover, donations could benefit the ASPCA.

You can also give a monetary donation to the family to help with funeral costs. If you’re unsure about where your donation should go, just ask.

3. Mementos

A memento is a less common option that is still an appropriate gift for a funeral. These are gifts that serve as a reminder of the loved one that benefits remaining family or friends.

Windchimes gifted in remembrance is a great option. The loved one can install the windchimes outdoors and be reminded of who they lost whenever the wind blows. This serves as a gentle, calming reminder.

You can also have the deceased’s photograph put onto a blanket for a close family member. Blankets are a great comfort item that can assist the loved one during the grieving process.

4. A Home-Cooked Meal

Still wondering what to bring to a funeral? Consider bringing family members a home-cooked meal instead.

Odds are, the family will already receive plenty of flowers, donations, and mementos from others attending the funeral. But cooking is a simple task that sometimes becomes hard to do during the grieving process.

The best way to gift a meal to the family is to arrange a time to drop the food off at their home either before or after the funeral. This way, it’s one less thing they will have to transport from the funeral home.

The Best Funeral Gifts Are from the Heart

While all these funeral gifts are great, there is one gift we haven’t mentioned that’s superior to the rest — your own pre-planning.

Pre-planning your funeral arrangements is the gift you give to your family after you’ve passed. By pre-planning your funeral, you not only take the stress away from your family, but you also ensure the arrangements are exactly what you want.

If you’re interested in pre-planning your arrangements, fill out this simple form on our site. A member of our staff will reach out to you to begin planning this special gift for your family.