Grief isn’t something that hits us hardest right after losing someone before slowly fizzling out. Grief counselors find that grief often comes in waves and certain events, like the anniversary of the death, can cause it to rise back up in full force.
Not everyone will want to talk about their feelings on the anniversary of a death. However, it can mean a lot to receive words of comfort on the anniversary of a death.
How can you share a comforting bereavement message with a friend or loved one who is dealing with grief?
Read on for our short but complete guide on how to comfort someone with words on the anniversary of a death.
Online or Printed Words of Comfort on the Anniversary of a Death
What you say on the anniversary of a death may vary based on how and where or how you’re communicating those words. Common modes of communication include online or over text.
For example, if someone makes a social media post about the anniversary of a death, it’s appropriate to comment. Here, you can express your condolences or you can share a positive memory of the deceased.
If you’re putting together a text to acknowledge the anniversary of a death, make sure that it reads clearly. Don’t use “text talk” and consider keeping the message short and simple, ie, “I am thinking of you today. Let me know if there is anything I can do for you.”
In-Person Words of Comfort on the Anniversary of a Death
Sharing words of comfort in person can be easier, given that you can read the situation, but it may also feel a little more nerve-wracking. If you’re the type of person who prefers writing out what you have to say, you’re not alone.
If you are meeting up with the bereaved for the first anniversary of a death, consider following their lead. If they want to talk about the deceased, contribute to the conversation. If they don’t, let them talk about whatever feels best to them.
If you run into someone at a social gathering or work and know that it is the anniversary of a death, use subtlety. They may not want to talk about their grief in public. Instead, consider saying something like, “I’m glad to see you today,” or, “I was thinking of you earlier. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do for you.”
If you want to add a sympathy gift to your words of comfort, consider the proper sympathy gift etiquette.
Provide Gentle Comfort During a Hard Time
Words of comfort on the anniversary of a death can make all the difference. Finding something simple but supportive to say shows the bereaved that you remember and care about both the deceased and them.
Navigating loss is never easy and it doesn’t look the same for everyone. We’re here to provide our best insight and expertise to help you through the stages of losing a loved one. Take a look at our guide on what to do after a death.