Losing a loved one may be the most devastating experience life has to offer. All sorts of emotions burst from your chest, and your world is overturned. Just because the experience is universal does not make it any less overwhelming.
There is good news, no matter how hard it is to hear. That news? Even if you can’t find hope yet, you can cope.
Coping with loss involves the full spectrum of human emotions and communication skills. Because of that, it can be difficult to isolate the specific coping skill you need at any given moment.
We have written this guide to give you simple tips for coping with your loss when you are at a loss.
4 Tips for Coping with Loss
You may have heard a few of these suggestions. There are only so many things we can say about the death of a loved one, and history’s great thinkers have said most of those things.
We don’t expect to blow your mind with this list. Instead, think of it as a gentle reminder of the things it can be easy to forget in the moment.
1. Do Not Get Hung up on the Stages of Grief
You have likely heard about the Kubler-Ross Model of grief. It says there are five stages a grieving person goes through: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. People apply this model to breakups as well as deaths.
Here is the thing. The Kubler-Ross Model is flawed at best.
For one thing, you may experience any number of these feelings at the same time, and you almost certainly will not progress cleanly through each of the five stages until you find peace.
That is why you should not get hung up on the Kubler-Ross Model, trying to figure out where you are in the process. You should just experience your grief and know you are right where you need to be because it is where you are.
2. Connect with Others in Real Life
Social media can provide a false sense of support when a loved one dies. You may receive a lot of attention. But if that attention does not come with conversations, shared meals, physical affection, and listening to your confusion and anger in real time, it is insufficient to heal you.
3. Avoid Big Life Decisions
Your world has just turned upside down, and you don’t know what to do. It can be tempting to do something drastic to change your situation. Try not to, at least not yet.
These experiences can certainly mold us and have lasting effects, but wait until the most intense emotions have passed. That way, you can evaluate if your big decision is fueled by a kind of mania or is sincere.
4. Take Care of Your Body
As hard as it will be, you have to practice self-care in grief. If your health deteriorates, you can come out the other side of a loss worse off in more ways than just emotionally.
You Do Not Have to Do This Alone
Coping with loss is painful, confusing, and disorienting. Fortunately, you do not have to face the loss of a loved one alone. If you follow these suggestions, you will find a support network that sustains you in your grief.
We are also here for you. Funeral planning can take its toll during this time, so peruse our funeral planning resources now to avoid unnecessary stress later.