On Grief and Grieving: Dispelling the Five Stages Myth

When people get on the topic of grief and grieving, discussing the five stages often comes into play. However, there are some myths that people may not be aware of when it comes to these stages.

In this article, we will discuss each stage that focuses on grief and grieving and point out some of the inaccuracies.

The Shock Rollercoaster

The first myth that we are going to talk about is being in shock when you’ve lost a loved on. When someone has lost a loved one, and they’ve expressed being shocked or in disbelief, what is meant by that is that they are saddened and hurt, not necessarily that they can’t believe someone has passed.

A person being shocked by the death of a friend or loved one may come in instances of sudden death. However, being shocked doesn’t last long as grief begins to set in.

Being Angry With the Dead

Often when people lose someone close to them and have to face mortality, the first emotion that they feel is not to be angry with them. Actually, it’s not felt by people in the majority of cases. What is perceived is that longing to have the person there again in your daily life.

If you do find that you’ve entered a stage of anger, you must speak to someone about it because the deceased can’t offer you a way to relieve that anger.

Longing for The Deceased

This stage isn’t necessarily a myth because when you lose someone close to you, it’s natural to miss them and want them to come back. However, this emotion can be dangerous if it’s all that you fixate about.

If you find that the way you’re longing for the deceased is overtaking your life, we recommend that you seek help from someone that you trust. They will be able to help you sort out your feelings and give you ways to cope.

Time Heals All Wounds

When you go through the stages of grieving often, people will tell you that time will eventually heal everything you’re feeling. This is not true because you can’t put a time on how long mourning will last.

You need to understand that the grieving process will end when it ends, and there’s not a way that you can speed up the process.


Another myth that you’re told is that at some point in the grieving process, you will accept that someone has passed and begin to move on with your life. Many people believe that you don’t accept someone’s death, you simply learn to move on in life knowing that the person is no longer with you.

Everyone grieves in their own way; it’s not fair to say that there is only one way to accept the death of someone important to them.

Advice on Grief And Grieving

Reading the advice provided above on grief and grieving can help free yourself from feeling that somehow you’re not grieving the right way. It gives you the room necessary to do what works for you while you’re grieving. After all, no two people are the same.

If you’ve lost a loved one, contact us. We will ensure that they have the going home service that they deserve.