The Do’s and Don’ts of Writing a Eulogy

Have you been asked to write a eulogy? Are you in a predicament as to what you should write? A eulogy is a big responsibility, and you need to get it perfect in a delicate, emotionally charged situation.

Luckily, with a few rules, you can easily create a beautiful goodbye for your loved ones. Below, we provide the do’s and don’ts when writing a eulogy.

Do Talk It Over When Writing a Eulogy

It is well worth talking the eulogy writing over with family and friends, both before and after you write it. They will have lots of stories and anecdotes about the deceased and may view things from a different perspective. It will give you a much better range of ideas to choose from and write about.

Once you have written your first draft, choose a select one or two people to share it with. Ask them to give any amendments or any possible corrections. This way, you will be sure to please everyone and make them remember the happiest of times.

Don’t Make a List

If the eulogy sounds like a list, it will undoubtedly sound impersonal. In addition, you do not have long to talk about the deceased, so listing trivial facts and information does nothing to comfort those in attendance. If you begin listing places of birth, jobs that had been done, and life events in chronological order, it will become tiring for those listening.

People will most likely already know these events. Instead, stick with the warm-hearted stories and tales will that will provide solace to your audience.

Do Make It Personal

The reason you have been asked to do the eulogy is that you were close to the deceased. It stands to reason that you should make it personal, both from your and their perspective. Do not be afraid to tell how they impacted your life and made it a positive one, or discuss how they helped you out.

You should also be willing to share personal stories. Think of a tender moment when they did something positive, or helped you out of a situation.

Don’t Bear Grudges

If we are honest, not everyone lives their life perfectly and not every relationship is positive. It may be that you are being asked to give a eulogy on a person that you frequently had disagreements with. Very often, this can make it even harder to write.

In this situation, whatever your state of mind, you should focus on the positives. Leave any grudges or things they did wrong from the writing, and instead replace them with happy stories. No one will ever benefit from you bringing up ancient history.

Take Comfort From It

When writing a eulogy, make sure it gives you comfort. Not only is it there to send the deceased off, but it is also there to provide you with solace. If it does not, start again, keeping it personal and saying what you really want.

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