What You Should and Shouldn’t Say When Talking About Death With Kids

Are you trying to find a way to talk about death with your kids?

Death is one of life’s certainties, and every year in the United States there are more than 2.8 million deaths. Depending on where you are in your life, there may not be a way to avoid speaking to your kids about the loss of a loved one. Sometimes speaking to young kids about death is a hard but necessary discussion.

Read on to learn how talking about death with your kids can be a little bit easier on you and your loved ones.

Illustrate an Example

One of the hardest things for kids to understand is the finality death brings upon someone’s life.

This challenging subject can be explained in an easier way by using an example that your children can relate to in some way. You can start the conversation by saying everything that lives will eventually die. Even the flowers you water will die one day.

Gauge the age and maturity of your child to make a decision about the best example to use to illustrate the concept of death.

Explain Where People Go After Death

Depending on your child’s age, they may ask you where someone goes when they die.

This can be a difficult question to answer as a parent who’s still coping with the death of a loved one or close friend.

Deciding how to approach this question depends a lot on your religious beliefs. If your religion teaches about everlasting life after death, explain to your child that heaven awaits all those who depart this world.

If you don’t raise your child in a religious environment (or don’t share those beliefs), you can speak to them about what you believe happens to someone when they die.

Speaking to a child about where people go when after they pass on can help them develop a more optimistic outlook on death; that death isn’t the end, but simply a transition.

Reflect on Positive Memories

When you are speaking to a child about the death of a loved one, reflect on the positive memories they spent with that person. For example, if your child’s grandmother or grandfather passed away, think of some of the special moments your child shared with them.

Instead of focusing on the negative of losing this person, which can be extremely hard on everyone, the memories will help you find a sense of happiness despite the gravity of the situation.

Spend Extra Time With Kids

Many parents center their lives around the happiness and well-being of their children.

By spending extra time with your kids after the death of a loved one, you will help them to keep their minds off the loss as much as possible.

You may also find that being with your kids will have a therapeutic benefit for your body and mind. That’s because you too may be having a hard time coming to grips with the new reality.

Talking About Death with Kids Doesn’t Have to Be Super Difficult

Talking about death with a child can be one of the hardest experiences of your life. By thinking about what you want to say and how to say it, you can give yourself the best opportunity to have a helpful conversation.

While exposing your child to death at a young age can be detrimental to their emotional development, sometimes it can’t be avoided. Your conversation with your child about death can help them to cope with the loss for the rest of their life.

At Kuzo and Foulk Funeral Homes, we are dedicated to treating the loss of your loved one with compassion and respect. We work together with families to help them with loss and to honor their family member or friend in a meaningful way.

Contact us today to learn more about how we ensure the comfort of your family is our first priority.