- Steer away from bright and attention-grabbing garments. The focus should be on the family and their loved one. 

- Neutral and dark colors are most appropriate.

- If the deceased and/or family had a particular dress code they requested visitors wear to a service adhere to it (if possible!). Requests can range from incorporating a favorite color, to sporting a jersey from their favorite sports team. If you aren't entirely sure, it never hurts to check in with the family or funeral director.

- Express sympathy, condolences, and support to those grieving. Many opt to send cards, flowers, or care packages.

- Ensure that cell phones are off or placed on silent.

- Sign the guestbook upon entry (if one is available). This is a great way for families to determine who was present to pay respects, particularly during larger services where they may not have a chance to interact with every individual person in attendance.

- Speak softly, and keep conversations with others attending the service respectful.

- If a service has a set start time, make an attempt to arrive about 10-15 minutes prior to in order to minimize disruption. Should you arrive late, locate a staff member who will be able to show you to the closest available seat.

- Respect the family's religious beliefs and traditions by following the lead of the clergy/officiant. 

- Follow up with friends and family-even a short phone call to check in can be beneficial for their wellbeing after a loss. 

- Offer to assist with meals, household chores, childcare, and other miscellaneous errands. Doing so can take a great deal of stress off a grieving family. 

- Do not be afraid to talk about the deceased. Some may worry that doing so can cause upset for the family, however it can be therapeutic for many experiencing loss to discuss memories of their loved one. 

- Make a point to spend time with the family on dates such as the deceased's birth and death, and during "family-centric" holidays such as Thanksgiving and Christmas.