At a time when everyone around you is rejoicing in the crisp air, sipping hot chocolate, and counting down the days until Christmas, grief can feel particularly isolating and difficult.

No matter how much time has passed since your loved one's departure, we know this time of year can be especially difficult when navigating grief.

Here are some pieces of advice for finding your way through the season...

1) Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions may come

There is no "correct" way to grieve. Some days you may feel compelled to get in the holiday spirit; while others not so much. This is okay, and it's normal for your emotions to fluctuate. Listen to your body, and feelings, and allow yourself to feel these emotions without guilt.

2) Don't Abandon Traditions, Adjust Them

It is completely reasonable to feel that things can't be done the same way as they were with your loved one present. You may not feel compelled to celebrate in the exact same way, however this doesn't mean you have to forego a holiday gathering all-together. Some examples of this could be hosting in a different location or adjusting traditional menus.

3) Create A Small Symbol or Ritual 

Whether it be setting a place for them at the table, playing their favorite holiday songs, or lighting a candle in their memory, these simple additions can be a comforting reminder of the individual, rather than a glaring reminder of their absence.

4) Talk about Your Loved One

Some may worry that bringing up your loss can create an awkward or uncomfortable situation. If you feel up to it, discussing happy memories of the person can be extremely beneficial and therapeutic.

Setting the tone during a gathering that it is okay to look back and share memories often leads others to follow.

5) Acknowledge When You are Struggling

If you aren't feeling up to celebrating, you don't have to! You may feel that "powering through" and faking a smile is best, however it could cause more damage in the long run. 

While no one wants to disappoint family, your emotions matter. Your well being is important to your loved ones, and there is no shame in reaching out to those you trust. 

This holiday season, we wish you moments of peace among the lights and noise, and the assurance that it is okay to hold joy and sorrow in the same hands.

Kuzo & Foulk Funeral Homes.